There is Help for Victims of Abuse by Kara Bosco
Honey, They aren't good for you
If you’re terrified of them, it's not love…
...it is abuse, and it is their choice to hurt you.
Domestic abuse is an important issue in our society. In our school, this topic is covered in Mrs. Stiller’s health class. But for the students who have not yet taken health, I hope reading this article will will help you gain important insight. Knowledge into this topic may even be used in your own life to identify signs of an unhealthy relationship before it overtakes you.
Domestic abuse is not gender or sexuality specific. Men are also abused by women, not just the other way around, and this should be taken just as seriously as a women being abused by a man. A man shouldn’t have his masculinity teased because he's being abused by a woman.
It's a common misconception that domestic abuse is exclusively physical, but it needs to be known that many aspects are mental. Physical abuse is just easier to see, while mental abuse is hidden and has to be looked for. Abusers will use different tactics against their target.
Abusers use common techniques: They will show dominance over their partner to show that they are the ones in charge with no room to argue.They will purposely humiliate their targets by making them feel bad about themselves or make them feel worthless. Unfortunately, some believe “Why would you leave the one you're with if you believe no one else will ever want you?” Insults, shaming, name calling, and public put downs are all just things abusers use to ruin your self esteem.
They will isolate their targets, cutting them off from friends, family, maybe even stopping them from going to school or work. You may have to ask permission to do anything, see anyone, or go anywhere.
Threats are a common thing abusers use to keep their target with them and make them never speak up. They may threaten to hurt or kill you, your pets, other family members, and if it applies to you, your children.They will do what they can to intimidate their target. Threatening looks or gestures, destroying things in front of you, or putting weapons on display are all ways to show you that if you don’t obey there will be violent consequences.
Abusers will blame their victims, and deny that they ever did anything wrong. They might blame their past, a bad day, and even their victims. Some try to make victims feel that they are the reason they are abused, and make them feel as if they deserve the abusive treatment. They know exactly what they are doing, and they do it on purpose.
If you relate to any of these things in your relationships, it is not healthy and you should do what you can to remove yourself from that person. There are plenty of people around you that are willing to do what they can to help you. Even in our school, you have many different options, whether it's help from your teachers like Mrs. Stiller, guidance counselors, our school psychologists, and even the principals Ms. Pinel, Mrs. Petersel, Dr. Olamiju, and Mr. Finkelstein are willing to help you, and will make time to hear you if you have a serious problem. Also, in the resource room by the attendance office there is a program supported by the school called V.C.S. -- Volunteer Counselor Service. Jackie Iaria, our Family Resource Coordinator, is very willing to help. She will help get you through things and is another great option for help in our school.
You are not alone! You don't have to do this alone! People want to help you, even when you may think otherwise. If you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship, talk to an adult, or any of these given sources, and they will help you.
These are some more resources, outside of our school, if you need more information:
http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/secure-computer
National Domestic Abuse Hotline- 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Website- http://www.thehotline.org/help/
More Info- http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm
If you’re terrified of them, it's not love…
...it is abuse, and it is their choice to hurt you.
Domestic abuse is an important issue in our society. In our school, this topic is covered in Mrs. Stiller’s health class. But for the students who have not yet taken health, I hope reading this article will will help you gain important insight. Knowledge into this topic may even be used in your own life to identify signs of an unhealthy relationship before it overtakes you.
Domestic abuse is not gender or sexuality specific. Men are also abused by women, not just the other way around, and this should be taken just as seriously as a women being abused by a man. A man shouldn’t have his masculinity teased because he's being abused by a woman.
It's a common misconception that domestic abuse is exclusively physical, but it needs to be known that many aspects are mental. Physical abuse is just easier to see, while mental abuse is hidden and has to be looked for. Abusers will use different tactics against their target.
Abusers use common techniques: They will show dominance over their partner to show that they are the ones in charge with no room to argue.They will purposely humiliate their targets by making them feel bad about themselves or make them feel worthless. Unfortunately, some believe “Why would you leave the one you're with if you believe no one else will ever want you?” Insults, shaming, name calling, and public put downs are all just things abusers use to ruin your self esteem.
They will isolate their targets, cutting them off from friends, family, maybe even stopping them from going to school or work. You may have to ask permission to do anything, see anyone, or go anywhere.
Threats are a common thing abusers use to keep their target with them and make them never speak up. They may threaten to hurt or kill you, your pets, other family members, and if it applies to you, your children.They will do what they can to intimidate their target. Threatening looks or gestures, destroying things in front of you, or putting weapons on display are all ways to show you that if you don’t obey there will be violent consequences.
Abusers will blame their victims, and deny that they ever did anything wrong. They might blame their past, a bad day, and even their victims. Some try to make victims feel that they are the reason they are abused, and make them feel as if they deserve the abusive treatment. They know exactly what they are doing, and they do it on purpose.
If you relate to any of these things in your relationships, it is not healthy and you should do what you can to remove yourself from that person. There are plenty of people around you that are willing to do what they can to help you. Even in our school, you have many different options, whether it's help from your teachers like Mrs. Stiller, guidance counselors, our school psychologists, and even the principals Ms. Pinel, Mrs. Petersel, Dr. Olamiju, and Mr. Finkelstein are willing to help you, and will make time to hear you if you have a serious problem. Also, in the resource room by the attendance office there is a program supported by the school called V.C.S. -- Volunteer Counselor Service. Jackie Iaria, our Family Resource Coordinator, is very willing to help. She will help get you through things and is another great option for help in our school.
You are not alone! You don't have to do this alone! People want to help you, even when you may think otherwise. If you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship, talk to an adult, or any of these given sources, and they will help you.
These are some more resources, outside of our school, if you need more information:
http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/secure-computer
National Domestic Abuse Hotline- 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Website- http://www.thehotline.org/help/
More Info- http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm